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Tuesday, October 22, 2013
My Best Friend Of Fifteen Years
My name is Chidiebere (not real name). I have been married for the past seventeen years. I am blessed with four children,three sons and a daughter. I met Nkechi (not real name) two years after I got married and we became best of friends. She was also recently married then. We told each other everything,even when we had issues with our husbands,we discussed it and tried to profer solutions to our problems. We baby sat each others kids when one of us wasn't around. A few years later I began to suspect that my husband was cheating on me,not only because he kept late nights.he began to recieve and make clandestine phone calls at odd hours,he also began to delete his messages and refresh his call register. He snapped at me at any slightest provocation. On some occassions,he slapped me.
I had no one to turn to at this time except my best friend Nkechi,i told her all I noticed about my husband and his changed attitude towards me and how I didn't know how to deal with it without losing my marriage or his love. Nkechi would always suggest taking me to a native doctor,who would prepare a love portion for me to make him love me more.
I was never comfortable with that suggestion,but I confided in her anyway. Years went by,my husband still didn't change,i kept on managing the marriage,some nights he won't come home.
Nkechi's husband fell ill and died of a proctacted illness,i was there for her in every stage of her grief,because she was my best friend. Her kids were little,she had only a provision store to support herself. I tried as much as I could to support her financially.
One day a neighbor invited me to a Prophetic church,i honoured the invitation. I knew no one in that church neither did anyone know my marital issues. As the service went on,the man of God called me out, and began to talk about my marital problems,i was suprised because only Nkechi knew my problems,but she wasn't a member of that church,
i hadn't recovered from that shock when he mentioned my best friend's name,Nkechi. He said Nkechi wasn't who I thought she was and that she had always been envious of my marriage,so she was the cause of my marital frustrations. What is this man saying? I thought within me. He further said,Nkechi was in a relationship with my husband and he would need prayers to end the relationship because Nkechi had charmed him. This is ridiculous I thought. Nkechi was like the sister I never had,she wouldnt do such a thing,besides,she was aware of all my marital problems. I refused to believe what I heard,but it kept nagging at the back of my mind. I thought about it for days and decided to watch her and my husband.
My husband had typhoid fever and got admitted in the hospital. I stayed with him over the night till the next day. When I went home to get a little rest,i sent our ten years old daughter Uloma to stay with him. When I came back in the afternoon to check on him,Uloma told me that she overheard daddy talking to Nkechi on the phone and telling her what kind of food she should prepare for him as dinner. Suddenly I remembered what the Man of God told me.
My husband started insisting that I need not spend the night with him in the hospital,that I and Uloma should get some rest that he would be okay and the Nurses would take care of him. After much persuasion by my husband to go home, I agreed and left with Uloma,he didn't know I had my own plans. In the evening I sneaked into the hospital disguised and stayed where I would see anyone going into my husband's ward. An hour later I saw Nkechi carrying a food flask into my husband's ward.I couldn't believe my eyes. I was suddenly filled with rage,my best friend for fifteen years whom I trusted very much! I told her all my marital problems,i treated her like a sister,and this is the way she wants to pay me back? The man of God was very right.
I allowed her to get into my husband's ward before I also went in,i found her bent over him giving him tiny kisses and touching his face. What is going on here I screamed? So it is true,Nkechi? What did I ever do to you to deserve this? Before she could respond I pounced on her,i beat her mercilessly,i could see shame and embarrassment written all over my husband's face,he turned and faced the wall,the nurses heard our voices and ran in. They couldn't separate us,they had to bring in the security officials to separate us and they escorted us out of the building.
My husband was discharged a few days later,he has been acting funny since the hospital incidence,i suspect that he hasn't stopped seeing her.
I am still filled with rage at Nkechi and my husband. So I ask you readers to please advice me and don't judge me. I still love my husband and still want to keep this marriage,i know fighting isn't the solution,i don't know what to do.